The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PhD

Discover the Science-Backed Strategies That Save Marriages and Strengthen Love

About the Book

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work revolutionizes how we understand love and commitment. Dr. John Gottman spent decades studying thousands of couples in his renowned “Love Lab,” identifying exactly what makes marriages succeed or fail. This book distills his groundbreaking research into seven powerful principles that any couple can apply—whether you’re newlyweds finding your rhythm or long-term partners ready to reignite your spark. You’ll discover why some arguments actually strengthen bonds while others create distance, and learn practical tools to deepen friendship, manage conflict constructively, and create shared meaning together.

From the Back Cover

John Gottman can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will stay together or divorce. Now he shares the secrets that will help your marriage not just survive, but truly flourish.

About the Author

Dr. John M. Gottman is a world-renowned psychologist and researcher who has dedicated over four decades to studying what makes relationships work. As a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington and co-founder of The Gottman Institute, his research has been featured in major media outlets and has transformed marriage counseling worldwide. Co-author Nan Silver is an award-winning science writer who brings clarity and warmth to complex psychological concepts.

Who Is This Book For?

This book is essential for any couple wanting to strengthen their relationship—whether you’re engaged and planning your future, struggling through a rough patch, or simply want to deepen an already good marriage. It’s equally valuable for marriage counselors, therapists, and anyone who believes love requires more than just feeling—it requires understanding and skill. If you’re ready to move beyond guesswork and build a marriage grounded in proven strategies rather than outdated myths, this guide will show you the way.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Q: What are the seven principles in Gottman’s marriage book?
The seven principles include building love maps, nurturing fondness and admiration, turning toward each other, letting your partner influence you, solving solvable problems, overcoming gridlock, and creating shared meaning. Each principle comes with practical exercises you can start using immediately.

Q: Can this book help save a struggling marriage?
Yes. Dr. Gottman’s methods have helped countless couples rebuild their relationships. The book addresses common marriage problems like poor communication, constant arguing, and emotional distance with research-proven techniques that work when both partners are willing to try.

Q: Is this book only for married couples or can engaged couples benefit too?
Engaged and dating couples benefit tremendously from this book. Learning these principles before marriage helps you build a strong foundation and avoid common pitfalls. Many premarital counselors recommend it as essential reading.

Q: How long does it take to see results from applying these principles?
Many couples notice positive changes within weeks of implementing the exercises and techniques. However, building a stronger marriage is an ongoing journey—the tools in this book are designed to serve you throughout your entire relationship.

Q: Do I need to read this with my partner or can I read it alone?
While reading together creates great opportunities for discussion, reading it alone can still improve your marriage significantly. You’ll gain insights into relationship dynamics and learn how to change patterns by shifting your own behavior, which naturally influences the relationship dynamic.