Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – And Keep – Love

About the Book

Attached brings cutting-edge attachment theory out of the psychology lab and into your daily life. Psychiatrist Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller explain how your attachment style—anxious, avoidant, or secure—shapes every romantic interaction you have. This isn’t just theory; it’s a practical roadmap to understanding yourself, choosing compatible partners, and creating relationships that actually last. Backed by decades of research, this book gives you the insights needed to break free from destructive patterns and experience genuine connection.

From the Back Cover

“The science is clear: we are designed to love. Understanding how your attachment style works is the key to finding happiness with the right person.”

About the Author

Dr. Amir Levine is a psychiatrist and neuroscientist with expertise in attachment theory and its applications to adult relationships. Rachel Heller, M.A. is an experienced psychologist specializing in couple dynamics and communication. Together, they’ve distilled complex psychological research into accessible, life-changing guidance that has helped millions of readers worldwide understand their relationship patterns and build healthier connections.

Who Is This Book For?

This book is perfect for anyone who feels stuck in unfulfilling relationship patterns, struggles with dating anxiety, or wants to understand why past relationships failed. Whether you’re single and searching, newly dating, or working to improve a long-term partnership, Attached provides the psychological framework you need. It’s especially valuable for those who’ve read other relationship books but still feel confused about why certain patterns keep repeating in their love lives.

What You’ll Learn

Inside Attached, you’ll discover your personal attachment style and how it influences your choice of partners, communication patterns, and relationship satisfaction. You’ll learn to recognize the attachment styles of others, understand compatibility factors that predict long-term success, and develop strategies for becoming more securely attached. Most importantly, you’ll gain practical tools to stop sabotaging good relationships and start building the loving, stable partnership you’ve always wanted.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What are the three attachment styles explained in Attached?
The book covers anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles. Anxious types crave intimacy and worry about rejection, avoidants value independence and struggle with closeness, and secure individuals are comfortable with both intimacy and autonomy in relationships.

Can attachment styles change over time?
Yes! While attachment styles are formed in childhood, they’re not permanent. With awareness, effort, and the right partner, people can move toward more secure attachment patterns. The book provides specific strategies for this transformation.

Is Attached only for people in relationships?
Not at all. Single readers benefit tremendously from understanding their attachment style before dating, helping them choose compatible partners and avoid repeating destructive patterns. It’s equally valuable whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or taking time to work on yourself.

How is Attached different from other relationship books?
Unlike generic dating advice, Attached is grounded in decades of peer-reviewed psychological research. It offers a scientifically validated framework for understanding relationship dynamics rather than opinion-based tips, giving you insights that actually explain why you behave the way you do in love.

Will this book help with communication in my current relationship?
Absolutely. Understanding your partner’s attachment style dramatically improves communication, reduces conflict, and helps you respond to each other’s needs more effectively. Many couples use this book as a tool to strengthen their existing relationship and build deeper emotional connection.