Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst

Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries and Navigate Difficult Relationships with Confidence and Grace

About the Book

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is a transformative guide for anyone struggling with relationships that feel more exhausting than life-giving. Lysa TerKeurst combines personal vulnerability with biblical wisdom to help you understand why boundaries matter, how to establish them without guilt, and when it’s time to walk away from unhealthy connections. This isn’t just theory—it’s a practical roadmap for protecting your peace while honoring your values. Whether you’re dealing with a difficult family member, a draining friendship, or a toxic work environment, this book meets you exactly where you are.

From the Back Cover

“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.” Lysa TerKeurst invites you into her own story of heartbreak and healing, showing you that protecting yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary, healthy, and honoring to God.

About the Author

Lysa TerKeurst is the #1 New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries. With over 3 million books sold, she’s known for her raw honesty, relatable storytelling, and biblical teaching that meets women in their real-life struggles. Having walked through profound personal pain—including betrayal and divorce—Lysa writes from experience, not just expertise. Her voice is both a comforting friend and a wise counselor who’s been where you are.

Who Is This Book For?

This book is perfect for anyone who feels stuck in relationships that repeatedly hurt them, struggles with guilt when setting limits, or doesn’t know how to handle necessary goodbyes. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s okay to protect your peace, felt exhausted by people-pleasing, or questioned whether you’re being “Christian enough” when enforcing boundaries, this book will bring clarity and relief. It’s especially valuable for women navigating complex family dynamics, recovering from betrayal, or learning to prioritize their emotional and spiritual health.

What You’ll Learn from This Book

Readers will discover how to identify unhealthy relational patterns, establish boundaries without shame, and make peace with difficult endings. You’ll learn the difference between setting boundaries and building walls, how to communicate limits with love and firmness, and why protecting yourself honors the life God gave you. Through Lysa’s story and biblical teaching, you’ll find permission to stop sacrificing your well-being for others’ comfort and start living with the freedom and peace you deserve.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Q: Is setting boundaries selfish or unchristian?
No. Healthy boundaries actually reflect biblical wisdom. This book shows how protecting your peace and well-being honors God’s design for relationships and allows you to love others from a place of strength, not depletion.

Q: How do I set boundaries with family members without causing conflict?
Lysa addresses this directly, offering practical scripts and strategies for communicating boundaries lovingly but firmly. You’ll learn that while conflict may arise, your responsibility is to protect yourself with grace, not to control others’ reactions.

Q: When do I know it’s time to say goodbye to a relationship?
The book provides clear markers for recognizing when a relationship has become toxic or unsustainable. You’ll gain clarity on when staying causes more harm than leaving, and how to navigate those painful but necessary goodbyes with wisdom.

Q: Will this book help if I struggle with people-pleasing?
Absolutely. Lysa writes specifically for those who’ve spent their lives putting others first at their own expense. You’ll find compassionate guidance on breaking free from people-pleasing patterns and reclaiming your voice.

Q: Is this book only for people going through divorce or major betrayal?
Not at all. While Lysa shares from her experience with betrayal, the principles apply to any difficult relationship—whether it’s a demanding parent, an emotionally draining friend, a narcissistic boss, or anyone who consistently disrespects your limits.